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MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE

Congratulations on your engagement!

This is a very exciting time for you, and your future spouse, and we are thrilled that you are seeking to celebrate Holy Matrimony in the Catholic Church! The first step in your marriage preparation would be for you to contact the Pastor at your parish and set up an initial meeting. He will be glad to help you start, and walk with you through, this wonderful journey!

6 STEPS TO A REWARDING MARRIAGE PREPARATION EXPERIENCE
MEET WITH YOUR PARISH PRIEST OR DEACON

After your your wedding engagement, contact your parish as soon as possible and set up a meeting with the Marriage Formation Minister, typically a priest or deacon, to assist you with your marriage preparation. Ideally 12 months before the wedding date.

MENTOR COUPLE

Speak with your priest to see if your parish has Mentor Couples. This is a great opportunity to learn firsthand from an established couple about marriage.

MARRIAGE PREPARATION INVENTORY

Shortly after the meeting with your priest or deacon, most parishes will ask both of you to complete a marriage preparation inventory, which is a series of questions designed to assess individual habits, expectations, and values (FOCCUS Marriage Ministries is the preferred inventory of the diocese). This inventory will provide you with a personalized profile of your relationship strengths and growth areas

MARRIAGE PREPARATION CLASSES

Because marriage is a vocation which requires sacrifice and making a “gift of self,” discovering what it means to live a Christian lifestyle is essential for a Christian marriage to thrive, especially in this challenging age. 

Attendance at the Marriage Preparation Seminar fulfills this step. Your priest may fulfill this step by meeting with you personally or by way of another parish-based opportunity. Spanish Marriage Preparation

NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING (NFP)

Natural Family Planning respects the love giving and life-giving natures of marriage, and enriches the bond between husband and wife. Within marriage, the couple can utilize the knowledge gained through NFP leading to a fruitful and fulfilling family life.

RETREAT

This step is designed to fine tune “life skills,” both as individuals and as a couple, and to help you grow in areas needed for a joyful and holy married life.

Attendance at a Catholic Engaged Encounter weekend retreat fulfills this step. 
Your priest may fulfill this step by way of another parish-based opportunity or for Spanish A Nuestro Alcance

 

FINAL STEPS

You will now return to the priest for final interviews to discuss the knowledge and experience you have gained from the entire marriage preparation process. This is a time to ensure that everything is in order concerning the wedding day. You will begin to prepare the liturgy for your wedding day, also have time for prayer and an opportunity to go to the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

MARRIAGE RESOURCE LINKS
COURAGE

Courage is a support organization for persons with same-sex attractions who wish to live the virtue of chastity.  It was initiated in the 1980’s by the late Father John Harvey, OSFS, and has chapters in many countries around the world.  In 2011 it opened a chapter in Colorado Springs, with Father Mark Zacker and Deacon Matthew Brend as chaplains.

Courage espouses five goals: chastity, prayer, group support, chaste friendships, and healthy role modeling.  It runs its meetings on the model of a 12-step group.  It does not engage in reparative therapy or political activism.  It assumes a distinction between same-sex attractions and same-sex activities.  It acknowledges that, although the former may not be a matter of choice, the latter are.  It seeks always to support the choice for a chaste self-restraint and a healthy self-giving.  

Catholic spirituality begins with a sense of self-acceptance based on the love of God. That self-acceptance serves in turn as a basis and motive for self-improvement.  Courage is about both.  For more information, visit www.couragerc.net.  To contact the local chapter, write courage@diocs.org, or call (719) 481-3511.  “I can do all things in Him who gives me strength” (Phil 4:13).

MARRIAGE ENCOUNTER

Worldwide Marriage Encounter offers a weekend experience designed to give married couples the opportunity to learn a technique of loving communication that they can use for the rest of their lives. It's a chance to look deeply into their relationship with each other and with God. It's a time to share their feelings, hopes and dreams with each other. The emphasis of the Marriage Encounter weekend is on the communication between husbands and wives. The weekend provides a conducive environment for couples to spend time together, away from the distractions and tensions of everyday life, while encouraging them to focus on each other and their relationship. It's not a retreat, marriage clinic, group sensitivity, or a substitute for counseling. It's a unique approach aimed at revitalizing Marriage. This is a time for you and your spouse to be alone together, to rediscover each other and together focus on your relationship for an entire weekend. Every marriage deserves that kind of attention! For more information and to find out the schedule for the next weekend please click on the link below.

Marriage Encounter Weekend Information

RETROUVAILLE

A weekend experience for couples who have reached a point of disillusionment and misery in their marriage.  Retrouvaille, which is French for rediscovery, offers couples hope as they rebuild and put the pieces of their broken marriage back together. The Retrouvaille program is Catholic in origin but is open to married couples of all faith expressions. For more information please call Ron & Diana Lovell @ (303) 328-8658 or 1-800-470-2230 or visit the web site below.

Retrouvaille Weekend Information