Real love calls for telling truth about sexuality
Letter to the Editor
I was troubled by the recent letter titled “Don’t condone discrimination against LGBT people.” While the author is clearly striving to be loving, I have to wonder what kind of love she is talking about? The kind of love being called for by the author is codependent and enabling. As Catholics we are called to a greater and truly life-giving love that Christ both taught and expects of us. It is the very opposite of loving, when we support the pushing of the LGBT way of life. Our God is crystal clear about it — just turn to Sacred Scripture. We are all called to be saints, and we are also called to help our fellow man to achieve that as well.
I recognize that the path to sainthood may be fraught with different stumbling blocks depending on the person, but we are called then to pick up our cross and follow Christ anyway. Those suffering with same-sex attractions and/or body dysmorphia have a huge cross to bear. They absolutely need us as Catholics to love on them, to walk with them and to be there for them. But how do we do that? It is not by saying “love is love” and “don’t judge others.”
God gave us minds to think and to make judgments about what we see and experience. We can absolutely make the judgment that a behavior is sinful, and we ought to fight to not have sinful policies take effect in our country. That is not the same as judging the salvation of souls — that is not for us, but for God alone.
It is not love, but hatred in fact, when we see a brother or sister walking in sin and do not try to correct them. Our silence or condoning of such behavior leads to our complicity in placing their souls in peril. How is that loving?
There is simply not enough space to lay out all of the problems with this line of thinking, but what I would like to offer to those who struggle with navigating this very issue with friends and loved ones is to educate yourself. Start with reading Theology of the Body. Other books that have been particularly helpful to me include “Made for love” by Father Michael Schmitz and “Who am I to judge?” by Edward Sri.
May we all strive to love in the way that God has taught us to. Let us help each other to become Saints.