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MISCARRIAGE AND INFANT LOSS SUPPORT

Heart of My Heart

Miscarriage and Infant Loss Support Ministry


If you are here, you have likely suffered the unthinkable loss of miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss. We’re sorry. We are so terribly sorry, for your pain, for your despair, for your anger, for your sorrow.

We understand because we have been there. It is the courageous families who drank the cup of infant loss, who have inspired the development of this ministry.

You are loved, you are not alone in your loss, and God’s mercy is infinite.

Full Digital Resource Guides
For Clergy
For Families


FROM THE CHURCH

USCCB: Solace and Strength in the Sorrow of Miscarriage

USCCB: Loving Parents After Miscarriage

ITC: The Hope of Salvation for Infants Who Die Without Being Baptised

BURYING THE DEAD: A VITAL CORPORAL WORK OF MERCY

The Church understands that burying the dead is one of the corporal works of mercy (CCC 2447). The Church also affirms, “As regards children who have died without Baptism, the Church can only entrust them to the mercy of God, as she does in her funeral rites” (CCC 1261).

Miscarried and stillborn babies are children who have died without Baptism. This may also be the case with children who die soon after birth. Please know that you have a right to bury your miscarried child like any other family member. You also have a right to a Funeral or Memorial Mass for your child, no matter how early you miscarried, and even if you do not have bodily remains.

Please speak to your local parish and priest about your options. Not only is this a vital corporal work of mercy, but the opportunity to seek healing in our Lord is invaluable.

Burial, Cremation, and Funeral Homes Resource Sheet

Gallery of Photos of Cemeteries, Columbaria, and Memorials

CASKETS, VESSELS, AND URNS

The Respect Life Apostolate now has caskets available for miscarriage losses specifically, at no cost to families. Please contact us if you are in need of one.

Caskets for miscarried children can also be purchased from Heaven's Gain and Elizabeth Ministry.

 

SPECIFIC TO STILLBIRTH LOSSES

Trappist Caskets for Infants are handmade wooden caskets available at no cost to families as a special act of mercy for those experiencing this devastating loss.

Baby Resting Gowns are lovingly handmade by a dedicated volunteer in the Diocese. The gowns are available to families seeking a beautiful outfit to lay their baby to rest in. We also have miscarriage swaddles available, to lovingly lay our earliest losses to rest in for burial.

HEALING, COUNSELING, AND SUPPORT

Heart of My Heart Support Group

A new miscarriage and infant loss support group session is about to start this Winter 2022-23. This session, led by a professional counselor, will run for 6-8 weeks and will culminate in a private Memorial Mass for the group and their families. If you are interested in joining this support group please complete the Interest Form on our website.

One-on-one support is also available from those who have walked through miscarriage and infant loss. Contact us to be linked up with a support person based on your personal needs and situation.

Healing and support resource sheet are available and include Stephen Ministry, Diocese approved counselors and Catholic Charities.

MEMORIAL MASSES AND CANDLE LIGHTINGS 2022-2023

October 15, 2022: National Pregnancy & Infant Loss Memorial Day (ecumenical service); Wave of Light at Holy Apostles Catholic Church, Colorado Springs, CO

December 28, 2022: Holy Innocents Mass; Corpus Christi Catholic Church, Colorado Springs, 5:30 p.m.

Monthly Memorial Masses are available through the Precious Lives Burial ministry at Mt Olivet Catholic Cemetery in Wheat Ridge, Colorado.

If your parish offers a Memorial Mass for preborn losses and would like to be added to this list kindly contact Ashley Slack (contact information to the right).

MISCARRIAGE DELIVERY AIDS

A Miscarriage Delivery Aid (sometimes called a Miscarriage Collection Kit) is a package containing a few ordinary items that assist families in retrieving and preserving their miscarried child’s remains, when a miscarriage occurs at home. This allows families to bury or cremate their child’s remains in accordance with our Catholic faith.

These kits are available at no cost to families, through the Respect Life Apostolate, some parishes, and also through Colorado Springs Pregnancy Centers. For locations and hours of operation to pick up a kit with CSPCs please visit their website HERE

For instructions for using a Diocese-provided kit or for ideas to make your own please reference Caring for Your Childs Remains.

CONTACT US

POINT OF CONTACT

Ashley Slack
(719) 960-7197
Email: ashnslack@gmail.com

If you live outside of the Diocese of Colorado Springs or are a parish or diocese interested in standing up a similar ministry, please visit the external Heart of my Heart website.

SUPPORT GROUP INFORMATION

PLEASE COMPLETE THE INTEREST FORM TO THE RIGHT IF THIS GROUP, AND OPPORTUNITY TO SEEK HEALING, APPEALS TO YOU.

SUPPORT GROUP INTEREST FORM